That is what Zoe's teacher told me the other day when I went in to meet with her about Zoe's homework. She said, "Something happens to girls in 4th grade. They get cool."
This has been coming on gradually, but it came to a head the other day when I realized that Zoe did not bring her homework home for the third time in a row. Boy was she in trouble! She ended up with no TV for a week and I paid a visit to her teacher to discuss her "problem." We set some new homework rules and now that Zoe knows she's being monitored more carefully she is back to being a good homework doer. It was a mini-crisis for certain, but that sentence won't leave me. Something happens to girls in 4th grade... What's going to happen to my little Moodgie? Is she going to be too cool to be called Moodgie? Does that explain the recent difficulties with picking out clothes in the morning and changing outfits 3 times? The other night she asked me what she should wear to go to her cousin's play -- and that was 2 days away!
Of course when I questioned her about this she then said "I just want to look pretty like you always do." So my baby who loves me, and thinks of me as "pretty mommy" is still in there. I just hope "cool" Zoe doesn't eat her all up.
Before I conclude, I'd like to take this opportunity to apologize to my own mother for all the grief I may have given her over clothes to buy or outfits that needed changing. I don't recall it, but if I was like this, I'm so sorry. This might also explain why my mother has all the patience in the world for Zoe's outfit picking/changing -- she (perhaps) had a lot of practice!