25 February 2009

Words for Wednesday:

I almost forgot and it is only my second week back! OK part of the reason is because I couldn't think of a good song this week. I'm in a comfortable, but enjoyable rut listening to the same playlist on my iPod over and over as I work and I probably have already posted the lyrics from the best of those songs already.

The other part of the reason is because I have the song "Free to be... You and Me" stuck in my head. Zoe has been playing it a lot lately. Over and over and over actually. Does anyone else remember listening to this as a kid? The one by Marlo Thomas & Friends? I loved it so when I saw it at this year's book fair at Zoe's school I had to buy it for her. At first she wouldn't listen to it -- most likely because I love it so much and want her to like it too. Now that she's given it a shot, she's hooked just like I was.

Unfortunately, as an adult, the songs get a little annoying after awhile. Especially the chorus of the title song, but overall it is still good.

So, here's the words and if any one's interested in taking a walk down memory lane, let me know and I'll send you a copy of the CD.

Free to Be... You and Me
Music by Stephen J. Lawrence, Lyrics by Bruce Hart, Performed by The New Seekers

There's a land that I see where the children are free
And I say it ain't far to this land from where we are
Take my hand, come with me, where the children are free
Come with me, take my hand, and we'll live

In a land where the river runs free
In a land through the green country
In a land to a shining sea
And you and me are free to be you and me

I see a land bright and clear, and the time's comin' near
When we'll live in this land, you and me, hand in hand
Take my hand, come along, lend your voice to my song
Come along, take my hand, sing a song

For a land where the river runs free
For a land through the green country
For a land to a shining sea
For a land where the horses run free
And you and me are free to be you and me

Every boy in this land grows to be his own man
In this land, every girl grows to be her own woman
Take my hand, come with me where the children are free
Come with me, take my hand, and we'll run

To a land where the river runs free
To a land through the green country
To a land to a shining sea
To a land where the horses run free
To a land where the children are free
And you and me are free to be
And you and me are free to be
And you and me are free to be you and me

23 February 2009

ZoesMom ... in a Wordle

Give it a try, but be warned it is a bit like crack. http://www.wordle.net/

22 February 2009

A Couple of Connecticut Yankees

A new meme is sweeping through my blog roll and I am loving it! I was officially tagged by Emily for this one. And here goes...

What are your middle names?
Mine is Jill. Thus Marcyjill in case any of you were ever wondering. Jill is the name I was supposed to have until my great grandmother, Mary, died 2 weeks before I was born. In the Jewish tradition I was named after her, but since my brother was already around and named Jon, my parents didn't want to round out their nice Jewish family with Jon and Mary. Rob's middle name is Frank. For 33 years or so he thought it was Franklin until we showed his mother the proof for our wedding invites when she told him his middle name is actually just Frank. This was corroborated by his birth certificate. I'm not sure how you get to be 33 without knowing what your middle name is, but Rob did.

How long have you been together?
Since June of 1997.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We met in 1989, the summer after my freshman year in college. Rob was my brother's friend.

Who asked whom out?
He asked me out first about 6 months after we met. He never called me after that date. We ran into each other here and there because he was, as I mentioned, friends with my brother. So we had about 3 more first dates just like that where he asked me out and then never called over the course of 7 years until that date in June of 1997 "took."

How old are you?
I’m 38, he's 43. I love that he calls me his "child bride."

Whose siblings do you see the most?
Rob has 2 brothers and I have one and all three live within a half hour of us. We see one of Rob's brothers and one of mine with about equal frequency. The other brother not so much.

Which situation is hardest on you as a couple?
Rob has his own business. As a result he often agrees to what I consider insane work hours without giving much thought to my schedule or Zoe's. He leaves all that to me arguing that he has to take the work when it is available. It is our biggest source of argument, frustration and other difficulty. (I've noticed that almost every one who as answered this has cited work-related issues as the thing hardest on them as a couple. Just and observation.)

Did you go to the same school?
No, but our high schools did play each other in sports. College wasn't even close.

Are you from the same home town?
He's a Norwalk boy through and through and I grew up in Monroe and hated every moment of it.

Who is smarter?
Rob is no dunce, but I am the smart one.

Who is the most sensitive?
It depends on if you mean physically or emotionally. Rob is a big baby when it comes to being sick in any way. If he has a paper cut, it is the worst paper cut ever requiring band aids and neosporin. He will sleep for 3 hours just because he has a headache. I am from peasant stock and generally just get on with things as much as possible when faced with physical ailments. Emotionally, unless it is from his parents, Rob is mostly unaffected by any real or imagined slights, insults or other bother. I, on the other hand, obsess and have been known to ruin perfectly lovely evenings because I am insecure, obsessing, or insulted.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Wild Rice. It is walking distance from our house and it is really good, but reasonably priced Asian food. One of our favorite dates is walking to Wild Rice and then going to the bookstore afterwords. This winter, however, we've been driving there more.

Where is the furthest you have traveled together as a couple?
Mileage-wise it has to be Italy, but I think our drive to Dallas is the trip that really qualifies. Either way, we always travel very well together and have been planning more and more trips lately.

Who has the craziest exes?
Hands down that goes to Rob. His craziest ex has done pounds of cocaine as well as jail time for "soliciting."

Who has the worst temper?
Again, Rob. I boil over more often, but when Rob does it is scary. He once made Zoe wet her pants by just yelling at her. I am really glad it doesn't happen often.

Who does the most cooking?
Until this year that would have been Rob. Over the course of our relationship he wins, but in 2009, I win.

Who is the most stubborn?
He is, and nothing you can say can convince me otherwise.

Who hogs the bed most?
He does! We have a king size bed and sometimes even that doesn't seem big enough.

Who does the laundry?
I do. I am particular about my laundry methodology so I have banned Rob from the laundry. I know my particularness makes me seem crazy in his eyes and so be it. I like my clothes washed, folded, and even put away with regularity.

Who’s better with the computer?
Me. Rob is getting better, especially since he bought his Mac, but I have always been more tech savvy with computers and most forms of technology.

Who drives when you are together?

He does. Many years ago we were going somewhere with my mother and there was a couple in the car next to us and the woman was driving and my mother commented, "never trust a man who doesn't drive." Rob has generally felt it to be his duty to drive since then. I don't really love to drive so I gladly accept his being the driver.

Tagging: Tracie, Sara, and Courtney.

19 February 2009

Charlotte Interviews Me

Apparently "the interview" is an oldie, but it is new to me. I discovered it when I read Charlotte's (of Charlotte's Web) interview and I liked the idea. Happily Charlotte agreed to interview me. So, here goes...

1. One of your resolutions this year was to cook more often. Tell us about something you have cooked this month, and how it was received by your family.

I have been doing some cooking, but nothing too adventurous. The best meal I prepared was sauteed chicken breasts with green beans, corn and corn bread. The corn was frozen and microwaved because Zoe won't eat green beans, but everything else was made fresh. Zoe would only eat the corn and the cornbread, but my husband ate every bite so I took it as a good sign. I have to admit I liked it too. Much of the point of my cooking is so that my family and I eat healthier meals and I feel like this meal was a success on that front too.

Here's some photographic evidence of this meal:

2. You trained as a costume designer, and now work in a completely different industry. How do you channel your creativity?

These days I find my creative outlets to be either writing or photography. That is one of the reasons I love blogging so much -- it is a great space for both. I dream of someday doing some drawing and painting again and I have some interesting collage ideas in my head, but I right now life is so busy it is hard for me to make time and space for that.

3. Money is no object. What is your dream vacation?
That is a tough question because I am not sure if my dream vacation is in one spot or if it involves multiple locations. Either way it involved 5 star accommodations. I love beautiful hotels.

So if I had to choose one place I think a month or two in Barcelona staying a suite with a beautiful view would be divine. I would do it all, immerse myself in the Barcelona life and hope to get mistaken for a local by the end of the trip.

A traveling vacation would probably be the Pacific Northwest of North America. I'd like to start in Seattle, WA and explore north and west of there. I am sure I would need a month or two for that as well.

4. You love reading. What was the last book you read, what are you reading now and what is next on your TBR pile?

I just finished a book called Smart Girls Like Me by Diane Vadino. It is slightly above chick lit on the fiction scale of quality. Can't say I would really recommend it, but it is not a bad book.

I am currently reading The Saturday Wife by Naomi Ragen. I have only read the first chapter so far so I can't comment on it yet.

Next up is The End of the Affair by Graham Greene. This is my bookclub's next selection.

5. The Michelle Obama Vogue cover. Discuss.

I think Michelle Obama is a gorgeous woman with great fashion sense and the Vogue cover certainly backs that up. I don't have any issues with her being on the cover of Vogue -- I think it is fabulous. It shows her to be young, relevant and "with it." The role of "First Lady" is strange and ambiguous in my opinion, but I have high hopes for Mrs. Obama's definition of it.

1. If you want to be interviewed, leave me a comment, and I will send you some questions.
2. Update your blog with the answers to the questions and link back to the original post.
3. Include the rules in your post.

18 February 2009

Words for Wednesday: Crowing

It has been over a month since I posted a "Words for Wednesday" post. I've thought about it, but mostly forgot about it until I read Emily's post from last night about her music discussion with Bob. That very funny story motivated me this morning so I am throwing my hat (or my blog) back into the ring.

This week's song is "Crowing" by Toad the Wet Sprocket. I have loved this song since the first time I ever heard it -- especially since at that time I was going through a particularly painful heartache. It used to bring tears to my eyes and even today I still get a tingly kind of feeling when I hear it.

Overall I think the song is about not being able to change someone, a lesson that can be just so hard to learn sometimes. The chorus is all about that. "You give him love and affection but you couldn't keep him there." At the same time it says that you can't make yourself into something you're not "And the more skin that you shed the more that the air in your throat will linger when you call him your friend," says that so perfectly.


Been waiting
To find
You could've been happier
Given the time
If he'd make up his mind
You'd give yourself to anybody
Who would cross that line

And it was never question
He was crowing for repair
You'd give him love and affection
But you couldn't keep him there

Get over regrets
While you were sleeping with the angels
He was under the bed
And the more skin
That you shed
The more that the air in your throat will linger
When you call him your friend


Staring at a cold little hand
Reading fault lines
Of a shell of a man
You were waiting for a word from above
Wouldn't you know it
No answer ever did come

And it was never question
You were crowing for repair
You'd give him love and affection
But you couldn't keep him there

14 February 2009

Sick Boys

Why are men such babies when they are ill? This week my husband has the virus that just about everyone has been passing around. You would think he was dying of diphtheria the way he has been carrying on. Moans and groans and get me tissuse, soup, Nyquil, etc. Not moving from the couch where he has covered himself with ever throw blanket we have and littered dirty tissues all around.

Zoe and I had the same thing two weeks ago. It is a bad one virus, that is for sure, but do you think I got much sympathy when I was sick? When I asked him to stay home one day to help take care of and Zoe so I could go to the walk-in clinic he gave me a look that said I had to be out of my mind and of course he had more important things to do. And when I asked him to please get me some cough syrup he rolled his eyes so far back into his head, I am surprised they didn't get stuck there.

So yesterday I told my feeling better husband two things:

1. The way you have felt the past several days is exactly the way Zoe and I felt 2 weeks ago. Please try to keep that in mind next time I ask you for help when I am feeling ill.

2. Just because he has been sick, he is not excused from buying me a Valentine's Day gift and calling in an order for flowers will not do.

Not sure I will have much luck with the the first thing, but he did come through on the second so I will forgive him -- this time.

11 February 2009

Insomniac's poem

The thoughts around my head do creep,
making it hard indeed to sleep.

I really do feel quite weary,
and my eyes are red and teary.

Try to go back to that nice dream,
not as easy as it might seem.

And just as I return to sleep,
the clock does its thing, beep, beep, beep.

09 February 2009

25 Random Things About Me

Those who know me on Facebook and my blog will see the repeat, but this seemed like a good blog post as well as a Facebook tag. So, here it is, 25 random things about me...

1. My eyes change color – sometimes they are blue and sometimes they are green.
2. I am one of the pickiest eaters I know, but lately I have been trying to get better.
3. I think of myself as a New Yorker even though I only lived in New York for about a quarter of my life. I know I will live there again.
4. I eat ice cream almost every day. My current favorite flavor is peanut butter cup.
5. My idea of a great night out is dinner and a movie.
6. I think my UPS driver thinks I have some kind of shopping problem because of the number of deliveries he makes to my house. I do shop online a lot, but he’s never made any comments about it, so I am probably paranoid.
7. I am frequently taken by surprise and amazed by my love for my daughter and the love she has for me.
8. I don’t love babies. They’re OK. Certainly adorable, but I don’t go crazy over babies. I loved my baby, of course, but in general I rarely get excited over babies – even babies that are from family and close friends. It makes me feel bad, but I can’t help it.
9. When I was pregnant I thought I wanted to be a stay-at-home Mom, but it didn’t work out that we could afford it. At the time I was very disappointed, but since having my daughter and going back to work, I have always been glad it worked out that way. Working is good for me.
10. I was almost constantly ill as a child. I had to have gamma globulin shots regularly in an attempt to boost my immune system.
11. Sometimes I think I am the smartest person in the room and sometimes I think I am the dumbest, but rarely do I feel somewhere in between.
12. I am working on trying to start a charity organization that provides backpacks and school supplies to kids who can’t afford them.
13. Most of the time I start with the shoes when figuring out what I am going to wear on any given day.
14. I am not a fan of Bruce Springsteen or U2. I am the opposite of a fan.
15. I currently have chapstick tubes in the bathroom, on my nightstand, in my purse, and in my car.
16. Speaking of lips -- I love to buy lipstick.
17. I knew my husband was the man I wanted to marry when I realized that I could be completely myself with him all the time. I have never felt that way with any other man. I think it has made all the difference these last (almost) 10 years.
18. I hate to fly because it scares me. I do it anyway, but I hate it.
19. I used to be a costume designer.
20. I’m really happy about my decision to only have one child.
21. I hate when I have to call people I don’t know for information, appointments, take-out orders, etc. I will almost always try to fob this off onto others when at all possible. I am grateful that my husband is almost always willing to make these calls for me.
22. I own and use 4 computers and 3 iPods. I am a technology junkie.
23. I love the show “Top Chef” even though I don’t love to cook.
24. I get claustrophobic in large crowds. I think it is because I am short.
25. I consider myself lucky to have so many great friends.

05 February 2009

LibraryThing meets Twitter

I might be late coming to the party on this, but this is news to me: LibraryThing is now offering integration with Twitter. It lets you add titles with tags to your LibraryThing library. That is great for wishlist creation or purchases. And best of all the site reports that coming soon you'll be able to let your Twitter friends know when you add or review a book. Fun stuff!

Here's a link to all the details.

01 February 2009

Judgement Day

Tomorrow around noon I will be boarding a plane for California. I am going out to meet the new work team in person at the new company's HQ. I have 2 days full of meetings that include just about every person I have or will ever send an email to or be on a conference call with.

If there was ever an opportunity for a "what should I wear?" crisis, this is it. It took me quite a long time to pack. I tried on every outfit I considered. It was ridiculous really, but I am about to be judged by new people -- some of whom are key in my career. I think my appearance is pretty important in this instance.

I actually started thinking about what I was going to bring a few weeks ago when I ordered a suit from Banana Republic online. It is basic and black, but it is new and quite nice. I tried it on this morning with the shirt, shoes and belt I am planning to wear with it. I just bought the belt yesterday while out shopping with Becky so I especially wanted to see how it would look. I liked it, but I wanted a little confidence boost so I decided to show Rob and get his reaction. He was in the bathroom giving Zoe a bath and I walked in and asked him,

"How do I look?"

"Very professional," he said. "But you probably want to take the tag off that belt."

"Yes, I realized that," I said. "So despite the tag, does this look OK?"

"Yes," he said. "Zoe, doesn't Mommy look pretty?"

Zoe then popped up from the bubbles and rubber ducks and looked me over.

"I think you want to take that tag off," she said and went back to arranging her bubbles and rubber ducks.

I promptly left the bathroom and returned to my packing in private. I guess they were giving me a taste of what I am in for, right?

Well, even if they don't like my belt or my suit or me, it will be warm in California. 72 degrees and sunny warm. That alone will make this trip worth it!

And don't worry, I took the tag off the belt before I put it in the suitcase.