22 February 2009

A Couple of Connecticut Yankees

A new meme is sweeping through my blog roll and I am loving it! I was officially tagged by Emily for this one. And here goes...

What are your middle names?
Mine is Jill. Thus Marcyjill in case any of you were ever wondering. Jill is the name I was supposed to have until my great grandmother, Mary, died 2 weeks before I was born. In the Jewish tradition I was named after her, but since my brother was already around and named Jon, my parents didn't want to round out their nice Jewish family with Jon and Mary. Rob's middle name is Frank. For 33 years or so he thought it was Franklin until we showed his mother the proof for our wedding invites when she told him his middle name is actually just Frank. This was corroborated by his birth certificate. I'm not sure how you get to be 33 without knowing what your middle name is, but Rob did.

How long have you been together?
Since June of 1997.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We met in 1989, the summer after my freshman year in college. Rob was my brother's friend.

Who asked whom out?
He asked me out first about 6 months after we met. He never called me after that date. We ran into each other here and there because he was, as I mentioned, friends with my brother. So we had about 3 more first dates just like that where he asked me out and then never called over the course of 7 years until that date in June of 1997 "took."

How old are you?
I’m 38, he's 43. I love that he calls me his "child bride."

Whose siblings do you see the most?
Rob has 2 brothers and I have one and all three live within a half hour of us. We see one of Rob's brothers and one of mine with about equal frequency. The other brother not so much.

Which situation is hardest on you as a couple?
Rob has his own business. As a result he often agrees to what I consider insane work hours without giving much thought to my schedule or Zoe's. He leaves all that to me arguing that he has to take the work when it is available. It is our biggest source of argument, frustration and other difficulty. (I've noticed that almost every one who as answered this has cited work-related issues as the thing hardest on them as a couple. Just and observation.)

Did you go to the same school?
No, but our high schools did play each other in sports. College wasn't even close.

Are you from the same home town?
He's a Norwalk boy through and through and I grew up in Monroe and hated every moment of it.

Who is smarter?
Rob is no dunce, but I am the smart one.

Who is the most sensitive?
It depends on if you mean physically or emotionally. Rob is a big baby when it comes to being sick in any way. If he has a paper cut, it is the worst paper cut ever requiring band aids and neosporin. He will sleep for 3 hours just because he has a headache. I am from peasant stock and generally just get on with things as much as possible when faced with physical ailments. Emotionally, unless it is from his parents, Rob is mostly unaffected by any real or imagined slights, insults or other bother. I, on the other hand, obsess and have been known to ruin perfectly lovely evenings because I am insecure, obsessing, or insulted.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Wild Rice. It is walking distance from our house and it is really good, but reasonably priced Asian food. One of our favorite dates is walking to Wild Rice and then going to the bookstore afterwords. This winter, however, we've been driving there more.

Where is the furthest you have traveled together as a couple?
Mileage-wise it has to be Italy, but I think our drive to Dallas is the trip that really qualifies. Either way, we always travel very well together and have been planning more and more trips lately.

Who has the craziest exes?
Hands down that goes to Rob. His craziest ex has done pounds of cocaine as well as jail time for "soliciting."

Who has the worst temper?
Again, Rob. I boil over more often, but when Rob does it is scary. He once made Zoe wet her pants by just yelling at her. I am really glad it doesn't happen often.

Who does the most cooking?
Until this year that would have been Rob. Over the course of our relationship he wins, but in 2009, I win.

Who is the most stubborn?
He is, and nothing you can say can convince me otherwise.

Who hogs the bed most?
He does! We have a king size bed and sometimes even that doesn't seem big enough.

Who does the laundry?
I do. I am particular about my laundry methodology so I have banned Rob from the laundry. I know my particularness makes me seem crazy in his eyes and so be it. I like my clothes washed, folded, and even put away with regularity.

Who’s better with the computer?
Me. Rob is getting better, especially since he bought his Mac, but I have always been more tech savvy with computers and most forms of technology.

Who drives when you are together?

He does. Many years ago we were going somewhere with my mother and there was a couple in the car next to us and the woman was driving and my mother commented, "never trust a man who doesn't drive." Rob has generally felt it to be his duty to drive since then. I don't really love to drive so I gladly accept his being the driver.

Tagging: Tracie, Sara, and Courtney.


Emily Barton said...

You're right: work-related issues do seem to be the common theme when it comes to everyone's response to "hardest situations." I think that means all marriages would be much happier if we were all independently wealthy, and no one had to work :-)!

Anonymous said...

This was a great post. I agree that independently wealthy people must have an easier time but I've meet enough people in Greenwich to know that's not the case! I love the label for this too. My husband thinks I use my blog to complain about him!!!